I experienced a parenting fail again this morning. A parenting fail is where the kid goes out the door to school and she doesn't have a smile on her face and on this side of the door, I'm thinking, "Why? Why do I lack patience? Why do I frustrate her and why do I let her frustrate me? When will I learn???"
This happens too often for my liking, but thankfully, not as often as it used to. And the negative effects didn't even last too long, amazingly, because I remembered something I read recently. It was the "when will I learn" question that did it - that gave me the answer. 10 000 Hours. That's the answer. If you want to be good at something (like managing mornings with children??), it takes lots of practice and hard work.
I read this quote in Michael Hyatt's post on Why Real Creativity Requires Significant Work: "In his book, Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell talks about the “10,000-Hour Rule.” The basic idea is that success in any field is, to a large extent, the result of practicing a specific task for 10,000 hours—or more." That has stuck with me all week, and rather than being a downer and causing me to think that I'll never get there, it has proven to be a motivation. Keep trying, keep practicing. Yes, I'll fail, but then I get a clean slate to try again. To keep working on it, whatever the 'it' of the moment is.
I hope this encourages you. Lots of what we do in life is hard work - keep at it. Keep working hard at the things that are worth doing well...